Communication

I watched ' The Break-Up' last night - the movie with Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston? It was ok - no great shakes, but it did remind me how important the communication aspect of relationships is. I mean, it's one thing saying " I wanted 12 lemons" when he brought her 3, it's another thing saying " I want you to care enough to bring me 12 lemons when I ask for twelve, and not bring me three because you thought that was enough. I want you to respect me enough to do that."



The message is very different. On the one hand the latter is harder to say, and much more effort. On the other, the former is a veiled subliminal message that generally only a wise man with super natural powers would get. Bet we all do the first. Then we moan that people don't 'understand' us. Well, maybe they would if we spoke longer more meaningful sentences, with actual words that offer emotion and explain feelings, that would help, and maybe we'd all 'get what I men' a little more.

I know that I try to be more clear when I speak my mind - I try not to be hurtful, but every one knows i can't do subtle, and I'm not big on patience either. But then life is one big learning curve, and I'm trying to learn to be better as we go....