Now, I believe in boundaries, and I believe you should let kids be kids as long as possible, and all my friends know this about me. I also believe in talking about things, but not necessarily letting them DO the activity - I.e. if you explain sex to your kid, and talk about it, that doesn't give them permission to go out and DO it!
As the experts say :
Dr. Suniya Luthar, a professor of psychology whose research at the Teachers College of Columbia University focuses on children of privilege, says the cultural context of American society often encourages parents to say “yes” to situations that could lead to harmful outcomes for their child. “There is this feeling that more is always better, and the more you can do and accomplish the better. But there needs to be limits,” she said in a phone conversation. “Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you necessarily should.”
(from http://pagingdrgupta.blogs.cnn.com)
The question is how much do you teach and when?
Well, I'll have to ask the experts......
There are also gender differences in brain development. As Urion and Jensen explain, the part of our brain that processes information expands during childhood and then begins to thin, peaking in girls at roughly 12 to 14 years old and in boys about two years later. This suggests that girls and boys may be ready to absorb challenging material at different stages, and that schools may be missing opportunities to reach them.
That suggested you should leave boys alone to be kids for longer, and girls 'get it' sooner - hell, I know that.....I 'm just glad a expert is telling you or you'd never believe me!!
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