I recently stumbled on an article about dating when over 40 . It lead me down an interesting path of information in other people's dating habits, and whether multi-dating was ok or not (yes for men, no for women it seems,....) and whether ideas were changing on various fronts.
In my experience, over the last 3 years, the women have various streams of thought, but there are definitly two camps.
One: tell the guy how you feel ( but don't stalk him or chase him relentlessly) and let him decide whether he would like to pursue it further.
- Be prepared for him not to want to pursue it.
- Make sure you want to go further before you tell him you like him!
Two : Don't tell him anything close to feelings or thoughts
- Don't 'scare' him with emotions - Treat him like he's not really worth much - make him chase you - Wait untill he's really 'hooked' untill you allow any emotion to be shown
I can't hold by number Two. It goes against everything I am. I believe in honesty and truth. To tell you the truth, if he can't handle me in my real format, then he hcan't handle me at all. A real man isn't scared by truth or honesty, and he can handle it well, and with aplomb. Well, the one I want to date can!If he can't he'll run away, and never know what he missed! Shame on him, and good for me. Honesty is the best policy I say !!
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