Put herself first – it’s not easy. Her instinct is to look after and protect the weaker and less fortunate. However, women need to look after themselves first. Then they are stronger and more able to look after others.
Do DIY – it’s not as difficult as you think. Start simple, get someone to show you ( but don’t let them actually do it). Then gradually build up. The biggest issue is not having the right tools, so you ideally need a dad or someone that is a DIY specialist to lend you those things. Make a square storage box. Put up a shelf. It’s liberating!
Walk away from a bad relationship – I had to have this as second. It’s never too late to say goodbye to a bad relationship, and it’s never too early to see the signs. Don’t hang on because there is ‘no-one better’ or because ‘he’s nice when he’s sober’ or because ‘he’ll get better’. NONE of those will ever happen. Leave. It’ll never get better, but you can always find someone better. You deserve it.
Leave the house without make-up on – go on you know you can do it!
Walk in high heels - at least once. Men love sexy calves, and elongated legs.
Walk in flat shoes – I’d say a lot more than high heels, but the reaction from men is very different.
Drive – independence is important, even when good transport is readily available. The knowledge that you have mastered machine, and are able to competently steer a machine on roads is n indescribable feeling.
Say no – often. When you get older, you realise that a well positioned no can save you years of pain and persecution.
Go out alone – I do this all the time – it’s easy and you don’t have to listen to anyone else and where they want to go. You can wander around at your leisure, eat what and when you want and have a stunning day.
Master her own finances – actually, this should be second on the list. It’s the most important one after the herself first rule. Over the last 3 years, I’ve seen many women devastated by divorce. Not being in control of her own finances has been at the root of all of them. Get wise, get financially astute, and get a good lawyer!
Keep a blog – erhm,.... does this count?
Know how a computer works – once you figure it out it’s not that hard. Really, it’s like cooking. You follow the recipe, and all works out well, generally.
Ask a man out – it something a gal has to do at last once in their life. Sometimes it goes well, sometime not so well. I asked a guy out once, and he told me he couldn’t as he was getting married on the weekend. Ouch!
Put herself forward – make people notice you, let them know you exist, essentially – be like a man. Yes, it’s true, women don’t really do this enough, we sit back and hope people will notice how good we are, without any real work, but it’s not going to happen. If you are brave enough, volunteer for big projects. If you make a success of that, you’ll really rise in the ranks.
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